IN HONOR OF ALL OF OUR MOTHERS AND ALL OF YOU MOTHERS
"REFLECTIONS OF A MOTHER"
Author Unknown
I gave you life, but cannot live it for you.
I can teach you things, but I cannot make you learn.
I can give you directions, but I cannot be there to lead you.
I can allow you freedom, but I cannot account for it.
I can take you to church, but I cannot make you believe.
I can teach you right from wrong, but I cannot always decide for you.
I can offer you advice, but I cannot accept it for you.
I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you.
I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.
I can teach you respect, but I cannot force you to show honor.
I can advise you about friends, but cannot choose them for you.
I can advise you about sex, but I cannot keep you pure.
I can tell you the facts of life, but I can't build your reputation.
I can tell you about drink, but I can't say "no" for you.
I can warn you about drugs but I can't prevent you from using them.
I can tell you about lofty goals, but I can't achieve them for you.
I can teach you about kindness, but I can't force you to be gracious.
I can warn you about sins, but I cannot make you moral.
I can pray for you, but I cannot make you walk with God.
I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you eternal life.
I can love you with unconditional love all of my life... and I will.
NOTE:
If your mother is still living, count yourself among the fortunate ones. Show her this Mother's Day how much she means to you. When I lost my mother, I lost my best friend. I have a new best friend now, my adult daughter, and I am her best friend. My only concern is that when she looses me that she will hurt as badly as I still hurt over the loss of my mother which was twenty some years ago.
CLASSMATE SNIPPETS
CORRECTION::
Brooke Beall graduated from Notre Dame in 1958 not 1956 as I reported in the April newsletter. Sorry Brooke no one wants to be older than they are!
NEW ADDRESS:
A new address for a classmate. Shelia Brenneman Myers has moved back to WV. So correct it in your list of classmates:
Shelia Brenneman Myers
507 Stout Street
Bridgeport, WV 26330
A NEW PERSON TO ADD TO YOUR E-MAIL LIST
Welcome to: Laniebeau@aol.com is Barbara Elaine Zabeau Norteman (ND62) if you remember her drop her a note...
Joy Gregoire Gilchrist Stalnaker --- wrote and asked if I remember the aprons we made in Central--7th grade Home Economics Class?
Roleta's answer ---- Sure I do, liked them and thought they were so handy that I have made several over the years. Yes, I still sew. Do any of you still sew? Do you remember the aprons? I hated the cooking class in the 8th grade. I thought it was so dumb to set all of those dishes in a place setting out and maybe only use one fork and a small plate and then we had to wash and dry all of those dishes and silverware and put everything away--in a drawer wasn't it? One thing we fixed that I remember was the ground peanuts/bacon and cheese -- (some sort of spread) -it was pretty good. Years later I had a club sandwich with that combination and the memories came jumping back in my head. Funny how a surprising taste of something or the smell of a certain scent will jog memories isn't it? What memories do you have of those by gone days? I think each of you have a certain memory which would be nice to share with everyone. A memory of school days or growing up in Clarksburg in the 50's. Let's share memories.
I'm enjoying the newsletter every month. Finally I have some news for the next one -- Dana is running for County Surveyor. It's an elected position here. I guess that means if he does get elected, when his term is up he will be without a job! The election is May 16, so I'll let you know how it turns out.
Good news - Eugene called me this evening and was thrilled that we had found him. His family moved to Wisconsin in 1961. He still has an uncle in Nutter Fort, but hasn't been back for 10 years.
To show you how a small hint will go a long way to help find someone. We have been searching for John J. Murphy for months. As I reported before I made dozens of long distant calls to many John Joseph Murphy's to always find I had called the incorrect person. I found that many Murphy's named their sons John Joseph. I had placed articles on bulletin boards in different classmate rooms. But never had any luck. Phil Hooper e-mailed me that he remembered the name of a family (Eneix) who were related to John and that someone in that family may still live in the Clarksburg area. I sent this information to Charlie Burkhammer (one of our class " Missing Persons Detectives"). Charlie did some searching and found the correct relative who had heard from John via a Christmas card. So we have found another missing classmate
I thought it very interesting how we have found so many of our classmates so I looked to see how well we have done. We had 22 missing classmates the first of August. Since that time we have found the following 14 classmates.
Martin "Sonny" Ashland
Eugene Davis
Cheryll Gill Rasmussen
Louella Knight Wiseman
Loretta Mayer Brickman
Terry McAtee
Kenneth McIe
Sandy Moran Ferguson
John (JJ) Murphy
Bernard Snyder
Mike Swiger
Rocky Zannino
Ed White
WELCOME BACK TO ALL OF YOU!!!
We still have 8 classmates missing. Maybe you have a lead for us. Remember it can be something that you aren't even aware that might help. Think a minute. Maybe you remember who the missing classmates best friend was in WI..(a possible lead). Do you remember a parent or distant relative's name? A spouse's name --- most recent. A neighbor's name? An occupation? An organization? Where the missing was last known to live? Right now we have no leads on the following missing people....PLEASE HELP. LET'S FIND THEM ALL !!!
Ray Allen
Judy Grant Prout
Marjorie Jones Jackson
Richard McIntere
Robert Neal
Jon Reger
Peggy Robinson
Peggy Tibbs.
I had a suggestion from Deewa@aol.com --- She is making a list of (colloquialisms) sayings only heard in central WV. Do you have some for her? Send them to Deloros Costolow Wall (WI '58).She is going to write an article for our newsletter about them.
CHAT
Yes, the Class of 1959 is still meeting on Sunday nights at 9:00 pm EDT on "AIM". Are you having trouble with AIM? Checkout http://aim.com Download. If you have trouble, please write to me and I will try to help you or find someone who can help you download and connect. We would love to see some new faces. And to those who haven't joined for a while, we miss you. We have some great discussions about the past, teachers, and the present. We have a lot of laughs.
Fred writes that the Class of 1960 is having a Class Reunion at Clarksburg Country Club. The reunion is June 30 and July 1, 2000. Fred reports that Dottie Spears said the Class of 1959 is welcome to attend. If you are interested, contact Fred Alvaro for further information
OBITUARY
Mr. Doy M. Hefner
(FATHER-IN-LAW OF OUR CLASSMATE---Sandra Drummond Hefner)
CLARKSBURG -- Mr. Doy M. Hefner, 97, of Center Court, Bridgeport, died at 9:42 a.m. Saturday, April 8, 2000, at his residence following an extended illness.
He was born Sept. 6, 1902, in Burnsville, a son of the late John B. Hefner and Rosie L. Hitchcock Hefner.
His wife of 72 years, Daisy B. Jarvis Hefner, whom he married Aug. 9, 1927, survives.
Also surviving are two sons and daughters-in-law, M. Allen and Sandy Hefner, and George B. and Alexis Hefner, all of Bridgeport; one son-in-law, Richard L. Drummond, Louisville, Ky.; one sister, Marie Messenger, Zanesville, Ohio.
1st row
Connie Coffindaffer, Lawrence Bennett, Judy White, Jim White, Betty Hardy, Herbert Enslow, _______, Warren Whaley, Connie Thompson
2nd Row
George Barkley, Jane Haynes, Bob Turner, ______, Louise Posey, Kenneth Hanson
3rd Row
Barbara Kemper, Kenneth Hanson??, Nancy Laird, Joanne Drummond, ________, Janet Scott
4th Row
Dolores Costlow, Sandra Wamsley, Linda Moore, Louise Echenmann, Larry Floyd, Helen Kirchner, Patty Taylor, Patty Harper, Phyllis Steel??
5th Row
Jeannie White??, Gary Carpenter, Beverly Morris, James Shaffer??, Carol Van Horn
Carol wants information on the following people:
Where is Glenda Skidmore, Jim Lightburn, Tom Brown, Ronald Shaffer, Paul Rector, Gary Bailey, Mary Ann Conrad, Betty Cox, Emma Lou Singleton ?
NOW THAT I AM OLDER HERE IS WHAT I HAVE DISCOVERED
1. I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it.
2. My wild oats have turned into prunes and All Bran.
3. I finally got my head together, now my body is falling apart.
4. Funny, I don't remember being absent minded . . . . .
5. All reports are in; Life is now officially unfair.
6. If all is not lost, where is it?
7. It is easier to get older than it is to get wiser.
8. Some days you're the dog; some days you're the hydrant.
9. I wish the buck stopped here; I sure could use a few.
10. Kids in the back seat cause accidents
11. Accidents in the back seat - cause kids.
12. It's hard to make a comeback when you haven't been anywhere.
13. Only time the world beats a path to your door is when you're in the bathroom.
14. If God wanted me to touch my toes, he would have put them on my knees.
15. When I'm finally holding all the cards, why does everyone decide to play chess?
16. It's not hard to meet expenses... they're everywhere.
17. The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth.
18. These days I spend a lot of time thinking about the hereafter.... I go somewhere to get something, and then wonder what I'm here after!
A CLASSMATE IS AN AUTHOR
Here is the publisher's write up about a book written by our classmate John E. Stealey III. You can purchase this book by mail---address given at the end. John did not send this to improve his profits. "If everybody in the Class of 1959 bought the book from the University Press of Kentucky, the sale number would not come close to reaching the required contractual level where royalties would accrue." It is just that I wanted him to send this so we could see what our classmate has been doing.:
John E. Stealey III is professor of history at Shepherd College, Shepherdstown, WV (jstealey@shepherd.edu)
THE ANTEBELLUM KANAWHA SALT BUSINESS AND WESTERN MARKETS
BY JOHN E. STEALEY III
In the early nineteenth century a ten-mile stretch along the Kanawha River in western Virginia became the largest salt producing area in the antebellum United States. Production of this basic commodity stimulated settlement, the livestock industry, and the rise of agricultural processing, especially pork packing, in the American West. The Virginia saltmakers dominated their locality in capital access, labor supply, and manipulation of public policy. Salt extraction was then and is now a fundamental industry.In his illuminating study, John Stealey examines the legal basis of this industry, its labor practices, and its marketing and distribution patterns. To control output and markets, the saltmakers created legal combinations---output pools, lease/re-lease contracts, joint stock companies , and a proposed trust---that are the earliest such examples in the United States. These combinations drew national opposition from western consumers and a crusade to reduce the salt tariff that revealed the international aspects of salt commerce.
By eliminating middlemen in distribution, the Virginia salt producers anticipated later nineteenth-century manufacturers who tried to control prices and marketing. Their struggle with rationalization of factory management and marketing operations marks them as premodern business pioneers. Through technological innovation, they harnessed coal and steam as well as men and animals, constructed a novel evaporative system, and invented drilling tools later employed in oil and natural gas exploration. Thus in many ways the salt industry was the precursor of the American extractive and chemical industries.
Stealey's informative study is an important contribution to American economic, business, labor, and legal history.
256 pages Maps Illustrations ISBN 0-8131-1828-X $36.00 July
To order contact:
The University of Press of Kentucky
PO Box 6525
Ithaca, NY 14851
1-800-666-2211
Add $3.00 shipping fee.
This picture was taken at the Vaudeville For Vets in 1957. The production was at the Robinson Grande theater. I believe it may have been in connection with the Bicentennial that Clarksburg was celebrating. Pictured left to right is Roleta Smith Meredith, Seated Phil Hooper with Carolyn Pinella Warne on his lap. Standing behind Phil left to right is Linda Johnston Binkleman, Martha Frey Dase, Judy Daugherty Kimler, and Holly Furbee Burger.
Does anyone know what we did during the Vaudeville?
Judy Kimler writes of her memories of the event:
I remember the event but didn't remember what it was called or what it was for. I also have that picture. It really was a lot of fun. I was in the balcony and my part was telling someone on the 1st floor who wanted to know what I was doing, "I've got a man here who is hot about his seat." I'll never forget that. Back then it was so embarrassing to say that to an auditorium full of people.
As the world passes us by and as we get older but feel younger, take a minute and remember.
Yes, there were bad times but the good times stick out in our memories much stronger than the bad ones. Isn't it fun to remember? All of these past 40 years I had parked all of those high school memories back in a corner of my brain where they had become covered with cobwebs. Each of you have been dusting away a cobweb, one at a time. I thank you, it is fun to remember times gone by and our youth. I welcome more of your memories. Let's share. I still have many cobwebs left and hope more of you will do some dusting!!!
